“I’m sorry, after what happened in the United States, we don’t feel comfortable having you as a roommate because of your origin”
That was the response I received while I finalized the first step of my Fulbright scholarship requirement, which was to find a place. Only then, I knew that moving here would not be as easy as I imagined.
I started the semester with a significant level of unease. I legitimately questioned whether people are really petrified of a five-foot, little-bit-over-100-pounds person like myself! Hence, I opted to embody the role of the invisible observer. I carried on as if I was watching a movie where people talk, laugh and have conversations, while I sit quietly and ate my imaginary popcorn.
Although I thought being an employee for US embassy/American universities would create a less challenging experience, especially when I thought how positive my previous six times in the United States were. This time it has been different, and the reason being that before I always had a backup, colleagues, friends, acquaintances or a group where I belonged. Now I was starting from scratch, no known history that vindicated me from suspicion.
Despite that, I was not offended by anything or anyone. After all, I answered numerous questions about “my tent in the desert” and “the camels we had” among other questions. I consider this a harmless curiosity to validate the comical one-dimensional image presented in the media, thus, I was always delighted to correct it.
All in all, I don’t believe the world owes me anything. As I understand and respect other people’s opinions and personal inclinations, I can’t blame anyone even for making a false judgment, since “to accuse others for one’s own misfortunes is a sign of want of education; to accuse oneself shows that one’s education has begun; and to accuse neither oneself nor others shows that one’s education is complete” as Epictetus stated.
I am, however, disappointed that in this era of fast and vast means of learning, logic and reasoning are replaced with hasty conclusions and dismissal of proof – although the burden of proof is upon the claimant. Unfortunately, the appeal to emotion, fear and people remains prevalent.
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